WHAT IS POSITiVE DISCIPLINE
Positive Discipline is a program based on the work of Alfred Adler and Rudolf Dreikurs and designed to teach young people to become responsible, respectful and resourceful members of their communities. Based on the best selling Positive Discipline books by Dr. Jane Nelsen and co-authors Lynn Lott, Cheryl Erwin and others, it teaches important social and life skills in a manner that is deeply respectful and encouraging for both children and adults (including parents, teachers, childcare providers, youth workers, and others).
Positive Discipline is based on the understanding that discipline must be taught and that discipline teaches. To be successful, contributing members of their community, children must learn necessary social and life skills to thrive and survive in the world.
HOW does is work?
Gone is the idea that punishment is the best way to change bad behavior. What happened the last time you punished your misbehaving child, student, employee? Was it a quick fix or did it change their core behavior? Did it bring you closer or drive you further apart? With Positive Discipline we focus on what's driving the child's (or adult's) behavior. We get down to the seed level of the belief behind the behavior in order to have long-term change and not just a quick short-term fix. Everything we do incorporates CONNECTION before CORRECTION, being KIND and FIRM (at the same time), teaching valuable CHARACTERISTICS and LIFE SKILLS, and the SOCIAL-EMOTIONAL character development of the child. Children (and adults) feel encouraged, empowered, and inspired. They are able to discover how capable they are and to use that capability constructively.
What is the best way to learn? Teach! Positive Discipline is a research-based education program that provides a step-by-step approach to starting and leading experientially based parenting groups and classroom sessions. Experiential Learning is what makes Positive Discipline stand out from other parent classes and teacher training.
WHY does it work?
Recent research tells us that children are “hardwired” from birth to connect with others, and that children who feel a sense of connection to their community, family, and school are less likely to misbehave. Challenging behavior stems from the child not feeling a sense of belonging (connections) and/or significance (contribution). If one or both of these two basic human needs is not met the child will find a way of feeling belonging and significance, even if it's a negative. As Rudolf Driekurs so eloquently put it, "A misbehaving child is a discouraged child." He recognized four mistaken goals (negative ways of achieving belonging and significance) - attention, power, revenge, and assumed inadequacy. Positive Discipline will teach you how to identify these mistaken beliefs as they appear, and give you strategies and tools to use in the moment. If we can change the beliefs we can change the behavior!